I'm a hedonist, sadist, and sensualist who has been connected to the Seattle BDSM scene for about 20 years. I have a lifetime membership to the Center for Sex Positive Culture, such as it presently is. In the meantime, I have been enjoying the Yes M'Lady munches and mixers.
I may or may not have been born a dominant, but life circumstances prevented me from realizing my role until I reached my 40's. As I grew older, I found myself running my relationships from behind the social curtain - and I suffered for it.
I do not think that *I* should be the one who suffers, and I think that any suffering should be consensual: SSC, RACK, or otherwise.
I’ve attended Black Beat (Baltimore, MD), KinkFest (Portland, OR), Leather Reign (Seattle, WA), The Gathering (Seattle, WA), and SW Leather Conference (Phoenix, AZ).
My ideal situation isn't someone taking over all household duties as much as someone being assigned responsibilities of their own, me taking my favorites, and us combining on the others. It's just that I decided which are which. It could be some combination of my preferences and our abilities. There's stuff that I'd love someone else to handle, but if they're physically unable to do it ... well, crap.
As edgy as it can be to detest holidays and be grumpy about PDA, I enjoy decorating for and at least mildly participating in both holidays and small public displays of affection and expect the same in my partners. Grinches need not apply.
I'm very allergic to cats (go look up "pork-cat syndrome". Seriously, I'll wait) and have few illusions on who would win a "it's the cat or me" challenge, so I'm just saving us all some time here.
Although I have lived with partners in the past, I have never asked a partner to live with me and like living on my own. Any partners who wish to live near me are free to move to nearby districts, neighborhoods, streets, buildings, or units within the one I live. However, if I ever decide that I wish to live with a partner then I will make the offer.
I love thud play from all directions. I'm primarily comfortable bottoming sexually, adore service tops, and am exploring being more switchy when it comes to sex. I'm an unapologetic tickle top, though I can usually behave myself ... mostly.
I’m fully vaccinated, complete with five boosters.
I also have HPV: I hit the cancerous-strain lottery with mine, but it's remission so ... go me? I advocate strongly for safer sex practices.
**Desires and Fantasies**
CBT, caning, tease and denial, punching, scratching / abrasion, nipple play, watersports, tickling, grappling, sounding, forehead kisses, cheek kisses, cooing, submissive daddies, receiving service - both domestic and body, face-sitting, edging, dry nursing, "devotional sex", biting and other sorts of primal play, gymnophobia, some electrical play, discreet public play, men in sexy panties, watching men lick up their own cum (be it on me or elsewhere), fauxing, and receiving oral sex on demand.